The year has started, and I’ve started it without any resolutions specific to the year itself, to be honest. Well, that’s not entirely true, now is it? As I mentioned in the previous post, though, I am very interested in accomplishing certain goals within the next twelve month that are moreso tied to me hitting the big 3 and 0, as they say. Yesterday, a good friend of mine began to tell me one of her goals for this year was to stop worrying about things and finally just let go. Like really let go—both hands. The timing was interesting, because I was having a similar dilemma toward the end of last week, and finally, I just let go of an issue on Sunday. By Monday, the very solution I was looking for immediately presented itself. Did you hear me there:
re·mem·ber [ri-mem-ber] /rɪˈmɛmbər/: To return to an original shape or form after being deformed or altered. Origin: 1300–50; Middle English remembren < Old French remembrer < Late Latin rememorārī, equivalent to re- re- + Latin memor mindful ( see memory) + -ārī infinitive suffix.
I literally let go of the issue or source of struggle I was fighting, and almost immediately a viable and more promising solution showed up.Shortly after, another very wise friend mentioned to me “a lot of life is about habits we form. We form good habits and bad habits. At the root of changing those habits, is discipline. So that is what I am working on this year.” I thought the timing was so perfect, considering the conversation I had with the other friend that day. The act of holding on too tightly to things can easily be looked at as a sort of habit too, I suppose. Our motivations behind what forces us to cling to things tooth and nail is important, so in creating new habits and disciplines we have to evaluate that as well. Sometimes, we convince ourselves that holding on tightly to things is the best way to get a task done. That if we squeeze, contort, bend and break things, we can force them to our will and reach a certain end. But how certain are about the ends we reach, once we reach them, really? Each day, I learn this is not the case and I also learn that sometimes, the things we are fighting for do not truly represent our highest goals and desires. So much strength is gained from releasing things once they have outlived their value in our lives. But we have to evaluate these things carefully. Remarkably, once we remove sources of tension and discomfort, we leave space for the “coming of angels,” as a brilliant professor of mine once stated. And suddenly, the floodgates open and those angels come right in! So this week, I’ve tried to exercise just that. I’ve tried to surrender a bit deeper into things that are beyond my control or things that won’t change into what I want them to be. I’ve focused more on changing myself into who I would like to be. And even within this short period of time, what I have learned is that some things are the way they are—because that is really the way they are meant to be. When I accept those things as what they are, I find freedom. I feel some measure of joy and realignment. How about that:
Some things are the way they are—because that is the way they are meant to be. When I accept those things what they are, I find freedom and peace in the release.I didn’t really expect to come up with a mantra, but I guess I am grateful I did. Maybe it will be of value to someone. It has been working for me, so far. Cheers to letting go a little more each day. Pack light, for a smoother journey!
I guess nobody ever told you, all you must hold to, is you.
What have I dealt with from birth to 29 that I absolutely cannot bare caring into 30?A new decade of life, a whole new realm of experience–who is it that I want to be by the time I’m 40? I don’t know if I want to write an generous, sincere letter to myself now, or do I want to…what do I want to do? I guess the many posts you’ll see here will be about that journey. My plan is that eve of the New Year, I will sit down and set my intentions for this next year of life (I’m already a couple of weeks into the journey). I’m not sure what 29 will have in store, but I hope its beautiful. If I’m the painter of this canvas, well, I guess I better make sure of it. Cheers, Brian Btw, check out the awesome video below. It is an amazing interview of Nina Simone.